I can’t tell you how much time I’ve wasted in life comparing myself to other girls, viewing their lives through social media. Looking at their success and thinking: “I wish that was me” or “I’ll never look like that,” or “why does she have all this success,” etc.
I often get frustrated with myself every time I entertain those kinds of thoughts for even one second! Instead of looking at others and at what they have I needed to appreciate how God created me and once I did that I started to learn How To Love Myself.
“No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church” Ephesians 5:29 NLT
Wanting to take care of yourself is not wrong nor is it selfish. It’s biblical. Here are some ways you can take care of yourself:
#1 Water Your Own Grass
When we make the decision to love others, we are only pouring into others what is already in us. If your grass is dry and in need of watering, why go and water your neighbor’s before tending to your own?
Water your own grass and watch it grow by spending time with God in prayer, in His Word, and in worship! This is so important.
If my grass is not green and dry, I am easily angered and/or annoyed. How can we love others like this? I always have to keep myself in check and make sure that my spirit is well taken care of.
I recently I’ve been watching, what is now a 10 part sermon series called “Marked” taught by led Pastor Micheal Todd of Transformation Church in Tulsa, O.K.
I have learned so much from this series. From honoring myself to honoring others. These series has encouraged me so much.
Also, I have a playlist on Apple Music filled with the best of Steffany Gretzinger worship. Her music has defiantly helped me during my times of doubts and unsureness.
I’m constantly adding new songs to this playlist as the Lord leads. Here’s the link: The Best Of Steffany Gretzinger
#2 Surround Yourself with Love
“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” Proverbs 27:17 NLT
That scripture means so much to me.
Mainly, when I came into a full surrendered life in Christ. Before my of discipleship in Christ, I always said: ” I wish I had sisters.” I grew up as the oldest and the only girl of three boys.
I never felt understood as a girl growing up, until I started living my new life in Christ. Once I said yes to Christ I was adopted into a new family FULL of sisters!!
I don’t have mainly friends, though in the beginning I desperately wanted them, until one day I learned that it’s ok to have a few good friends, better yet it’s necessary!
Life in Christ gave me things I never knew I could have or wanted. It taught me that surrounding yourself with other positive people and believers is crucial.
#3 Embrace Your Struggles
I grew up a negative little girl! I was always afraid to be or to do. It was hard for me to speak up for myself. When I was in third grade I was bullied in school by my third-grade teacher.
So even till this day I sometimes struggle with speaking up and out! But I learned in Christ that life is so valuable and so much fun!
Stop wasting time being so negative!
#4 Allow for Downtime
“You Owe Yourself The Love That You So Freely Give Others”
Life gets busy, and yea I don’t have children so who am I to talk about a busy life, but LAWD, I feel like I’m always busy and there’s always something to do.
But guess what? We will ALWAYS be busy.
Time waits for no one and things just need to get done… However, making sure to set aside time for you throughout the week to declutter your mind and have some downtime is so beneficial.
Related Post: 5 WAYS TO HAVE DOWNTIME IN 2019
#5 Invest In Yourself
One of the most asked questions I get is “How are you so creative?!” Number one thing I’d say is by “investing in myself.”
Practicing my craft and engaging with my audience on social media costs me time, energy, motivation, and money. I have lots of goals, dreams, and aspirations; however, I will never reach my goals if I don’t invest in myself.
For you reading this, your dreams might be a little different than mine but the principle is still the same. Invest in your dreams, ask people the right questions, invest in books/ebooks about your field, pay for the training, take the course, buy the equipment! Believe in yourself.
If you don’t believe in yourself who will?
These are some of the things I personally love to do to take care of myself. I would love to hear your thoughts on different ways you LOVE yourself!
Thanks so much for reading!
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Sometimes these are the exact encouragements that we need to hear. Thank you!
Water Your Own Grass -that spoke to me! Great perspective and I appreciate you including the series by Pastor Todd. I will have to look this one up! -xoxo, Jess
I always say the quote, “you can’t pour from an empty cup.” It’s essentially the same concept as your “water your own grass.” I love this because you can’t give to others what you don’t have yourself. I definitely need to follow all of these pillars more closely–especially numbers 1 and 5! Great reminders!
Lovely read. We often think we are so busy and complain we don’t have time. But it is up to us to make time for our self and our loved ones. We should accept what we have and what can’t be ours. Thanks for reminding these self care and self love tips
I am 100% for investing in myself! So many of us feel drained, tired and disconnected from our lives because we’re not feeding our spirits and souls what we need.
LOOOOVED this post! So positive!!! And what a small world… I have a friend who keeps telling me I need to watch the sermons from Tranformations Church – I think I might take your suggestion and watch the “MARKED” one! : )
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You definitely should check out pastor Todd!!! He’s so amazing and teaches The Word Of God so well!!!!
This is all such wonderful advice! I always say you can’t pour from an empty cup, which is very similar to your first one of making sure to water your grass. So often we want to give, give, give, but we also need to take a step back & take care of ourselves, mentally, physically & emotionally! Great post! 🙂
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Yes!! I use to be someone who would give give give, but I would get so overwhelmed and felt like no one was giving back!! So I started to focus more on self-care because it was becoming a lot to tend to everyone else. So yes I totally agree to focus on one owns mental, physical, and emotional health. So that you can be healthier enough to continue to help and build others.